|"The whole world is a series of miracles ... but we are so used to them that we take them for granted." (a character in Hans Christian Andersen's The Puppeteer)
"If you are trying to change the past, you are deluded. If you are trying to change the present, you will be suffering. If you are trying to change the future, you must be responsible."
"No matter what you throw at him, it hasn't worked. No matter what is revealed, he remains standing. Facts, reality, brains cannot defeat him. Even when he commits a self-inflicted wound, he gets up the next morning and keeps going and tweeting. That all ends with this movie." (Michael Moore)
"I do not want my children to face a future where politics and public policy are dedicated to the achievement of a single goal: the unlimited accumulation and retention of wealth for the richest Americans, even at the expense of the poor and sick." (Lee Siegel)
"Law of Sustenance: If a system perceives that any of its components is a threat to the well-being of the system itself, it may attempt to eradicate the component at any cost. For example, if the planet earth perceives that the human species is a threat to its existence, it may try to eliminate the species even if the process involves substantial damages to the planet. Such a process might involve self-destructive actions of the human species. That is, if we think that we are in the position of saving or destroying the planet earth, we are mistaken. Rather, it must be that we are totally at the mercy of the planet earth."
"[B]eing transparently open is far more rewarding than being defensive." (Carl Rogers)
"The population which has the problem posesses the best resources for dealing with the problem." (Carl Rogers)
"Knowing what really happened [i.e., conflict based on differences] is more important than deciding who to punish [as if it were abuse]." // "this confusion between Abuse and Conflict exists in our historic moment in all structured relationships: from the most intimate partnerships to the government's relationship to its own people, and to the geopolitical dynamics between nations." (Sarah Schulman)
"All human relationships have power dynamics and that is neither good nor bad. Power is not the problem. It's how it is wielded." (Catherine Hodes)
"It's not about bathrooms ... as it was never about water fountains." (on George Takei's twitter)
"If immigrants must be deported, the first people of this land must have the right to deport all the latecomers."
"[P]ower of the people on top depends on the obedience of the people below. When people stop obeying, they have no power." (Howard Zinn)
"To think of moving forward through questions rather than answers means a different sort of politics, a different sort of organization." (John Holloway)
"The vast majority of modern slaves are in chains not for sex, but so that you and I can save a few bucks at the store." (Benjamin Corey)
[Addressed to parents about their children] "From the time he was young, he dressed the way you told him to dress; he acted the way you told him to act; he said the things you told him to say. He's been listening to somebody else tell him what to do .... He hasn't changed. he is still listening to somebody else tell him what to do. The problem is, it isn't you any more; it's his peers." (Barbara Coloroso)
"The primary requirement for students in our conventional schools is obedience. It’s almost impossible to fail in school if you do what you are told to do; it’s almost impossible to pass if you consistently choose not to do what you are told to do. And for the most part, you must obey unquestioningly. Children who continuously question the assignments, or the teachers’ judgments, or the textbooks’ or teachers’ answers to questions, are in trouble. The great majority of children learn not to question." (Peter Gray)
"A leader is best: When people barely know that he exists, Not so good when people obey and acclaim him, Worst when they despise him.... But of a good leader, who talks little, When his work is done, his aim fulfilled, They will all say, "We did this ourselves." " (Lao-tse via Bynner)
"The most common response is to design a set of incentives so that selfish people will act as if they were concerned about others and therefore do the right thing" (Samuel Bowles)
"Saviors are not interested in examining their own privilege. We don't want to see that the systems of race and class and gender that keep us in comfort where we are -- in the "right" jobs and neighborhoods and schools -- are the same systems that created the problems we say we want to solve." (Jordan Flaherty)
"The savior mentality means that you want to help others but are not open to guidance from those you want to help. Saviors fundamentally believe they are better than the people they are rescuing. Saviors want to support the struggle of communities that are not their own, but they believe they must remain in charge. The savior always wants to lead, never to follow. When the people they have chosen to rescue tell them they are not helping, they think those people are mistaken. It is almost taken as evidence that they need more help." (Jordan Flaherty)
"[B]ehind every fortune is a concealed crime. I don't believe you can get rich while doing good -- wealth and justice are mutually exclusive. The more wealth exists in the world, the less justice." (Jordan Flaherty citing Honoré de Balzac)
"That what we just need is the right person to graduate from Harvard, maybe Harvard Business School, and have this vision about how to change poverty, how to end poverty. That kind of imagination, that there's just the smart right-thinking charismatic individual, and that's how change is made, is completely the opposite of everything we know about movements. We know that real expertise and leadership around transforming poverty is going to come from masses of poor people in coordinated movement together solving these problems and creating a new world." (Dean Spade)
"The disaster for America and the world has so many aspects that the economic ramifications are way down my list of things to fear." (Paul Krugman)
"Some didn’t like Bush. Some didn’t like Obama. But this is different. Forget dislike. Many are genuinely fearful now. This is new." (Seth MacFarlane)
"... you have decided to jump in the fire, and we are not going to be a part of that." (Wilfred D’Costa)
"The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of one." (Chinese fortune cookie)
"The high value our society places on material accumulation has made people particularly vulnerable to being controlled by contingent financial rewards as well as by contingent love. Thus, when people in one-up positions use these contingencies controllingly, they tend to have clearly negative consequences for the children, students, employees, and patients on whom they are used. As such, people in one-up positions who use rewards controllingly are catalysts for the systemic processes that, in the final analysis, limit the psychological freedom of many people who live within the system. The American system offers substantial freedom to pursue desired outcomes, but paradoxically people's freedom often ends up being limited by the pursuit of these outcomes." (Edward Deci)
"[I]f you control people enough, they may begin to act as if they want to be controlled. As a self-protective strategy, they become focused outward--looking for clues about what the people in one-up positions expect of them, looking for what will keep them out of trouble." (Edward Deci)
"Allow yourself to fail and you will be more likely to succeed." (Edward Deci)
"The proper question [i.e., "how to motivate others"] is not, "how can people motivate others?" but rather, "how can people create the conditions within which others will motivate themselves." (Edward Deci)
"Events are not traumatic in and of themselves; they become traumatic when they exceed a person's capacity to cope." (Susan Craig)
"Only people who are doing something that goes against their own sense of right and wrong have to spend time and energy spinning out a self-justifying story." (C. Terry Warner)
"[T]he healing of the soul cannot be forced." (C. Terry Warner)
"Being overly concerned about our personal progress is just one of the ways we can slip back into self-absorption." (C. Terry Warner)
"When we find ourselves preoccupied with fixing others, we can know that we have either lost our softness of heart and generosity of spirit, or else we never regained it." (C. Terry Warner)
"Whether past pain blesses or crushes us is ours to decide." (Wayne Muller)
"If you are committed to a particular notion of happiness, you do not have much chance to be happy." (Thich Nhat Hanh)
"You can transform your nation into a prison because you are committed to an ideology." (Thich Nhat Hanh)
"The miracle is not to walk on water but to walk on the Earth." (Lin Chi)
"The good life ... is the process of movement in a direction which the human organism selects when it is inwardly free to move in any direction, and the general qualities of this selected direction appear to have a certain universality." (Carl Rogers)
"[B]eing closer to the truth can never be a harmful or dangerous or unsatisfying thing." (Carl Rogers)
"I love more and am loved more because of my depression, and I can say the same for many of the people I saw for this book. So many people have asked me what to do for depressed friends and relativesl and my answer is actually simple: blunt their isolation." (Andrew Solomon)
"If I ever attempt suicide, I'd like someone to save me, unless I have reached a point at which I accurately believe that the amount of joy left in my life cannot exceed the amount of sorrow or pain." (Andrew Solomon)
"If you created a relationship [with your kids] that is very transactional [e.g., using a sticker chart], what do you expect when everyone gets older? ... I'm not saying that giving kids a sticker is going to make them send their parents to assisted living, but if you think about the idea, it's a step in that direction." (Dan Ariely)
"Children, precisely because they are extraordinary learners with tremendous creativity and spirit, have discovered all kinds of ways not to be conditioned: they rebel, they don't pay attention, they underachieve, they overachieve, they drop out, they withdraw, and so forth." (Steven Harrison)
"It is practically enough if adults don't destroy the child; the rest is the child's to discover." (Steven Harrison)
"The chief cause of problems is solutions." (Milton Berle)
"A man who has never gone to school may steal from a freight car, but if he has a university education, he may steal the whole railroad." (Theodore Roosevelt)
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived." (Thomas Merton)
"Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems." (Dan Wile, referring to marriage)
"We can forget our childhood, but we cannot deny it." (anonymous)
"Following the mainstream culture without questioning its impact is like driving blindfolded."
"The pressure to perform--and its shadow, the fear of failure--represented a silient epidemic. Our competitive, high-stakes culture was the culprit. Our children were the victims." (Vicki Abeles)
"[W]e as a nation are not only making our kids miserable in the moment; we may actually be building a ticking time bomb of illness that will someday turn this generation of overstressed children into a generation of unhealthy adults." (Vicki Abeles)
"By 2005, parents surveyed by the Lucile Packard Foundation for Children's Health named homework as the greatest cause of their kids' stress, far more frequently even than divorce or family financial troubles." (Vicki Abeles)
"For parents who think they're giving their kids a leg up by having every moment of their day structured, it's having the opposite effect." (Murphy Paul)
"Don't mistake that we're doing something great just by giving everybody an iPad." (Travis Hamby)
"The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma, or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they ifnlict but the long-term distortions they induce in the way a developing child will continue to interpret the world and her situation in it." (Gabor Maté)
"The belief that anyone "should" be any different than he or she is is toxic to oneself, to the other, and to the relationship." (Gabor Maté)
"Drugs do not make the addict into a criminal; the law does." (Gabor Maté)
"As psychosocial integration is a fundamental human need, and free-market society, by its nature, produces mass dislocation at all times (not just during times of collapse), and as addiction is the predominant way of adapting to dislocation, addiction is endemic and spreading fast." (Bruce Alexander)
"The most promising way of controlling addiction is not prevention of experimentation, but prevention of dislocation." (Bruce Alexander)
"Depression is a response to past loss, and anxiety is a response to future loss." (George Brown)
"The best winning strategy is not to compete."
"[W]e call into our lives the teachers we most need to learn from, and these teachers will reappear in person after person until we finally absorb the necessary lessons." (James Mooney)
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." (Marcel Proust)
"Thinking is a useful and essential means of interpreting experience, but it is pathological if it dominates consciousness." (Kenneth Cohen)
"I do NOT pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one isolated Nation under greed, deeply divided, with liberty and justice for the select few. This is not because I am not a U.S. citizen. I just do not pledge allegiance to the flag of any political division on earth. Instead, I simply pursue peace."
"The person who wins the battle is the one who doesn't show up." (James Mooney)
"[R]egardless of its rewards, the life based solely on achievements represents with remarkable accuracy the approach/avoidance conflict that creates an environment of helplessness in which trauma can occur." (Robert Scaer)
"I believe that the absence of adequate nurturing during infanthood is child abuse. However, the concept of nurturing goes well beyond early maternal bonding; it extends into the childhoods and teenage years, when parents may make unreasonable demands for excellence or perfection and withhold intrinsic love and valuation of the child as a person." (Robert Scaer)
"Your best gift to your baby is to take care of yourself and surround yourself with people who honor that priority." (Robin Karr-Morse and Meredith Wiley)
"[I]mmoblity can be encountered with or without fear. ... it is only when the immobility becomes inextricably and simultaneously coupled with intense fear and other strong negative emotions that we get the entrenched trauma feedback loop in the form of presistent posttraumatic stress disorder. ... the key to resolving trauma is being able to uncouple and separate the fear from the immobility." (Peter A. Levine)
"The degree to which we cannot deeply feel our body's interior is the degree to which we crave excessive external stimulation." (Peter A. Levine)
"Real friends don't charge a fee for their friendship. Real teachers don't charge a fee for their teaching."
"If I had to design a system that was intended to keep people addicted, I'd design exactly the system that we have right now ... I'd attack people, and ostracize them. ... to create a system where you ostracize and marginalize and criminalize people, and force them to live in poverty with disease, you are basically guaranteeing they will stay at it." (Gabor Maté)
"It is not heroin or cocaine that makes one an addict. It is the need to escape from a harsh reality." (Shirley Chisholm)
"Amish children are taught that they are not more important than others." (Amish tour guide)
"[I]f we want our children to behave well, we have to treat them well." (Bruce Perry)
"If you can prescribe opiates for back pain, why can't you prescribe them for psychological pain?" (Johann Hari)
"Human beings only become addicted when they cannot find anything better to live for and when they desperately need to fill the emptiness that threatens to destroy them ... The need to fill an inner void is not limited to people who become drug addicts, but afflicts the vast majority of people of the late modern era, to a greater or lesser degree." (Bruce Alexander)
"What kids need to protect them from addiction are the fundamentals of a life: a sense of meaning and involvement, purposeful activity and achievement, caring about themselves and others, and the ability to manage themselves. The importance of these values and skills is not surprising. What's surprising is that we've lost sight of these being the best antidotes to addiction." (Stanton Peele)
"We are addicted to commercial quick fixes designed by experts. But these have never really solved any problem, e.g., addiction, mental health, educational issues, etc. The most effective approaches to these problems always emphasize the motivation and intention of each individual and the importantce of a nurturing environment. Unfortunately, there are no quick fixes or pills for these."
"Our spirituality is not a religion where you say an 'Our Father' in the morning and a 'Hail Mary' at night ... Our spirituality is a way of life. The churches came in and they taught the Bible, which wasn't the same as our spirituality. They taught us that our children were born with sin. That's just not right. Our children are sacred beings." (Eileen Janis, Lakota)
"... the nuclear family isn't a viable unit. The two-parent or one-parent family doesn't work, you need more support than that. And day care and baby-sitters maybe make a difference, but they don't take the place of a couple of grandparents and cousins and aunts and uncles who you don't have to pay to love your children." (Elise Klein)
"Too often, we feel obligated to prolong living beyond what's reasonable. This conviction is wedded to the common American misperception that anything is possible." (Karen Speerstra & Herbert Anderson)
"It's not that children are always correct. But children are almost never wrong."
"[N]early every inch of the United States was in one way or another wrested from Native stewardship." (Alison Owings)
"Traumatic memories are fundamentally different from the stories we tell about the past. They are dissociated: The different sensations that entered the brain at the time of the trauma are not properly assembled into a story, a piece of autobiography." (Bessel Van der Kolk)
"We were taught to think and plan seven generations ahead of ourselves. We're not here on Mother Earth just to live and go away." (Carol Craig (Yakama) via Alison Owings)
"People who feel safe and meaningfully connected with others have little reason to squander their lives doing drugs or staring numbly at television; they don't feel compelled to stuff themselves with carbohydrates or assault their fellow human beings. However, if nothing they do seems to make a difference, they feel trapped and become susceptible to the lure of pills, gang leaders, extremist religions, or violent political movements--anybody and anything that promises relief. As the ACE study has shown, child abuse and neglect is the single most preventable cause of mental illness, the single most common cause of drug and alcohol abuse, and a significant contributor to leading causes of death such as diabetes, heart disease, cancer, stroke, and suicide." (Bessel Van der Kolk)
"As a society, we have a choice: we can continue to focus only on expanding systems that provide late-stage treatment or containment for people who suffer from trauma and related pathologies--a path becoming increasingly unaffordable--or we can begin to invest in building physically and emotionally healthy children from the beginning." (Robin Karr-Morse and Meredith Wiley)
"[I]f you are an American, ... you're 2,059 times more likely to die by your own hand with a weapon of your choosing than in a terrorist attack anywhere on Earth." (Tom Engelhardt)
"Sometimes we use our minds not to discover facts, but to hide them" (Antonio Damasio)
"The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves." (Elvin Semrad)
"[I]f we watch how people's brains respond, promising them monetary rewards and giving them cocaine, nicotine, or amphetamines look distrubingly similar." (Daniel Pink)
"Rewards do not undermine people's intrinsic motivation for dull tasks because there is little or no intrinsic motivation to be undermined." (Deci, Ryan, and Koestner)
"If I die, I won't see you again." (Awajún farewell greeting via Michael Brown)
"The continuity between invading and occupying sovereign Indigenous nations in order to achieve continental control in North America and employing the same tactics overseas to achieve global control is key to understanding the future of the United States in the world. The military provided that continuity." (Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz)
"The story of the new world is horror, the story of America a crime." (Jody Byrd)
"Eating entails suffering ..." (Thanissaro Bhikkhu)
"[F]ood is a form of suffering." (Da Shi)
"The best advice is no advice at all."
"The only important questions are those without a unique answer."
"[W]e prefer feeling secure to feeling fear. But life is much bigger than the fixed, secure perspectives that make us comfortable, and so I want my student, without being frightened, to understand the vastness of reality and then to learn how to swim in that vastness--comfortably." (John Hunter)
"[W]e have to come to terms with the limits of our own response. We have to accept that any action we take might promote an equal and opposite reaction that we do not want. We have to realize that even the most noble actions or most obviously correct course can have its dark side that we cannot control or reason our way out of. ... The pacifist who refuses all war must realize that his inaction might ... result in the deaths of the innocent. There are no actions without contradiction--and yet we must act, for not to act is also a contradictory action with both positive and negative effects." (John Hunter)
"Things aren't always as they seem." (Father of John Hunter, among others)
"I understood that what kind of life I do not have is completely irrelevant. It only matters what kind of life I have when I have it." (Cassie via Stephen Levine)
"Outside the walls of our prison is the unknown. It is not secure, but it is free. We do not know what is outside the walls of the prison of our mind, because we have never ventured there. While our fear projects what is there, it cannot know. Fear cannot leave the prison because it must always guard its inmates." (Steven Harrison)
"Giving without relationship creates an object out of a human being." (Steven Harrison)
"If I had my life to live over again I should form the habit of nightly composing myself to thoughts of death. I would practice, as it were, the remembrance of death. There is no other practice which so intensifies life. Death, when it approaches, ought not to take one by surprise. It should be part of the full expectancy of life. Without an ever-present sense of death life is insipid." (Muriel Spark)
"The basic message of the news is that your time is unimportant, that the important things in the world are what other people are doing in other places." (Thanissaro Bikkhu)
"The Best Way to Rob a Bank Is to Own One." (William K. Black)
"I've worked with people who have said, 'I have no good qualities; there's just nothing about me that's beautiful.' And I say, 'That sure must be a drag, to feel like that, so unolved and unlovable.' 'Year, it feels really awful not to be able to love anyone, even myself, even a little.' 'There must be lots of people who feel like that.' 'It's terrible for someone to feel like this. They're so lonely, so cut off from everyone.' And here's this incredible compassion for the human condition coming out of them. They are talking so lovingly about themselves because they have uncovered a care for the unloved which was always present but was previously inaccessible. Now they have recognized someone in need, and that someone happens to be themselves, and now they can direct feelings of well-being to that place within themselves which so wishes to be whole." (Steven Levine)
"The problem is that we have internalized this fight-or-flight strategy and see lions where there are none." (Rodney Smith)
"People are not given a soul--a deep emotional life. Instead, they are given the possibility of soul. How much soul you have depends upon how much you deal with your own soul-like experiences; how much the pain is faced, how much the anxieties are confronted." (Stephen Skulsky)
"Self-help books are like car repair manuals; you can read them all day, but doing so doesn't fix a thing." (Thomas Lewis, et al.)
"If you don't program yourself, life will program you." (Chinese fortune cookie)
"According to Buddhism there is nothing that can be called a 'just war'--which is only a false term coined and put into circulation to justify and excuse hatred, cruelty, violence and massacre." (Walpola Rahula)
"Morality, if it's to be true and skillful, has to come from the wisdome of individual human being. If you try to impose morality on people, then it becomes a law that can be very oppressive." (Ajahn Sumedho)
"Judgment is often an attempt to cover over inadequacy, a rooted belief most of us assume to be true. It is important to note that judgment and the feeling of inadequacy are simultaneous experiences, and judgment is a reaction to the sense of being insufficient. Like a teeter-totter, if I can lower your image through my judgment, I can raise and enhance my own. The judgment gives me a brief respite from the pain of my belief, but over time the teeter-totter will continue to swing toward the weighted conditioning of my assumed inadequacy if left unobserved." (Rodney Smith)
"If we do not care for one anoher, who else will care for us? Who among us has the right to say of another, "He is of no use?" For better or worse, whether we like it or not, we are all in this together." (Andrew Olendzki)
"The future is always other than you imagined it." (the Buddha)
"Wanting things to be otherwise is the very essence of suffering." // "The greatest gift is the act of giving itself." (Stephen Levine)
"We can make as much food as we need and build shelters to protect ourselves from the elements. We've outsmarted most of our predators, from lions to bacteria. Today our most formidable natural enemy is ourselves. Nearly all of our biggest problems are caused by, or at least preventable by, human choice." (Joshua Greene)
"American often undermine children by parenting "backwards": pushing our babies to be independent while hovering over older kids. This fosters dependence--exactly the opposite of what we hope for." (Christine Gross-Loh)
"In Finland, "school readiness" has a different meaning than it does in the United States: it's not about kids being ready for school, it's about schools being ready to meet the needs of each child." (Christine Gross-Loh)
"Perhaps someday we will have an "811" number to bring a flying squad of palliative care and hospice doctors and nurses to the home to provide reassurance to the panicked family and pain management to the dying, as an alternative to a brutal final tour through 911, the ER, and the ICU." (Katy Butler)
"I'm going to walk to the bridge. If one person smiles at me on the way, I will not jump." (a suicide note)
"To drop opinion, belief, attachment, greed, or envy is to die--to die every day, every moment." (J. Krishnamurti)
"The mind can be aware of the unknown only when it dies to the known--dies without any motive, without the hope of reward or the fear of punishment. Then I can find out what death is while I am living--and in that very discovery there is freedom from fear." (J. Krishnamurti)
"The best we can expect from a system of rewards and punishments is temporary control. We can never expect to change children's motivation in this way. ... if we try to teach children to want to be cooperative and prosocial by rewarding their good behavior and ignoring or punishing their unacceptable behavior, we only confirm their view of relationships as coercive and encourage their tendency to be self-focused." (Marilyn Watson)
"Pain is not a punishment; pleasure is not a reward." (Pema Chödrön)
"If you take a test, don't take it seriously." (parent to child)
"[C]onsequences don't teach kids the thinking skills they lack or solve the problems that set the stage for their challenging behavior." (Ross Greene)
"The best things in life are not things." || "You can tell when you're on the right track. It's usually uphill." (Amish proverbs)
"For the immature, fear is often a prime motivator for right action. Rules, laws, restrictions and the threat of punishment for forbidden actions are all ways to insure that the individuals control themselves. A childish mentality does not love self-restraint, so it requires external rules for its and others' safety and well-being." (Marsha Sinetar)
"The musculoskeletal system was designed to maintain itself in a motion-rich environment, and does not readily take to management by drugs, surgery, or other forms of outside therapeutic intervention. All that's required is motion in keeping with design requirements and an adherence to the integrity of that design. The experts, no matter how well trained and well-meaning, can't do that." (Pete Egoscue)
"Who needs to abide by laws that do not honor our human rights?"
"If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him....We need not wait to see what others do." (Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi)
"The way of meditation is the way to die before your body dies. It's a way of dying before death and dying to death so that, poetically speaking, death is dead, rather anything else." (Ajahn Sumedho)
"The choice is not between violence and nonviolence but between nonviolence and nonexistence." (Martin Luther King Jr.)
"When I am told only what is known, it seems to be "all there"--nothing that I can contribute to it. I can only learn what others have found out. It is a closed world. When I know how small the known is in relation to the unknown, the whole world opens up before me. I am free to explore and make my own discoveries instead of being a passive recipient of what is known--to the point that I think that everything is known by someone else and that it is only through others that I can acquire knowledge." (Barry Stevens)
"He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened." (Chinese proverb)
"Optimism is wonderful; goals can sometimes be useful; even positive thinking and positive visualisation have their benefits. The problem is that we have developed the habit of chronically overvaluing positivity and the skills of 'doing' in how we think about happiness, and that we chronically undervalue negativity and the 'not-doing' skills, such as resting in uncertainty or getting friendly towards failure." (Oliver Burkeman)
"To be a good human is to have a kind of openness to the world, an ability to trust uncertain things beyond your own control, that can lead you to be shattered in very extreme circumstances for which you were not to blame. That says something very important about the ethical life: that it is based on a trust in the uncertainty, and on a willingness to be exposed. It's based on being more like a plant than a jewel: something rather fragile, but whose very particular beauty is inseparable from that fragility." (Martha Nussbaum via Oliver Burkeman)
"The art of dying well is the art of living well. There is no telling when the story will finish. And so the most important time in your life is none other than right now." (Stephen Kiernan)
"We are concerned about providing overly aggressive, unwarranted care, while care that is optimally suited to the dying person's needs is often not available or is not covered by insurance." (AMA)
"Death is different from what anyone knows, and luckier." (Walt Whitman)
"Children who have been exposed to these kinds of experiences [dying]--in a safe, secure, and loving environment--will then raise another generation of children who will, most likely, not even comprehend that we had to write books on death and dying and had to start special institutions for the dying patients; they will not understand why there was this overwhelming fear of death, which, for so long covered up the fear of living." (Elisabeth Kübler-Ross)
"Learning is spiritual. It won't come from outside; it can only come from inside."
"Teaching is overrated. Good teachers don't teach."
"I don't have to be anything special to investigate the truth, to find real freedom. I don't have to worry about being anyone or anything. I don't have to worry about anything, because I'm not that, either." (Steven Levine, paraphrasing the words of the most open-hearted and clear-minded people nearing death)
"Learning to die is learning to dissolve past the holdings of this moment, opening fresh to the next without clinging anywhere. We are each day, each moment, learning to die: to dissolve into the ocean of pure being." (Steven Levine)
"[T]he important thing is not how parents perceive their children think of them but how the children really think of their parents."
"People die as they live, but more so. To expect something different is to set yourself up for disappointment and failure." / "The best way to share the journey of dying is simply to be with the dying person, sharing quiet times and gentle moments." (Maggie Callanan)
"The only thing unnatural about death is how we try to defeat it, and when we can't, how we try to hide it." / "[Y]ou do not live until you take a risk at living." / "I was once so angry that our future had been stolen from us, but the thief was the anger that blinded us to the only thing that we had really ever had, the present moment." (patients' words via William Hablitzel)
"Punishing other person is self-punishment." (Thich Nhat Hanh)
"Charity and chance and narrow selectivity are not the way to educate the children of a genuine democracy." (Jonathan Kozol)
"Learning is possible only when there is no coercion of any kind. And coercion takes many forms, does it not? There is coercion through influence, through attachment or threat, through persuasive encouragement or subtle forms of reward. Most people think that learning is encouraged through comparison, whereas the contrary is the fact. Comparison brings about frustration and merely encourages envy, which is called competition. Like other forms of persuasion, comparison prevents learning and breeds fear. Ambition also breeds fear." (J. Krishnamurti)
"The economy will eventually burst because it is a bubble."
"[T]he culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We're teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work, don't buy it. Create your own. Most people can't do it." (Morrie Schwartz via Mitch Albom)
"Through 20 years of effort, we've successfully trained everyone to use passwords that are hard for humans to remember, but easy for computers to guess." (XKCD)
"Blame is the lie by which we convince ourselves that we are victims. It is the lie that robs us of our serenity, our generosity, our confidence, and our delight in life." (C. Terry Warner)
"We are terrified of letting go, terrified, in fact, of living at all, since learning to live is learning to let go." (Sogyal Rinpoche)
"True security is felt when we are comfortable with diversity and uncertainty."
"It seems necessary, unless the dying person is in a coma or cannot communicate, that he should be told he is dying. It may be difficult to actually take such a step, but if one is a friend or a husband or wife, then this is the greatest opportunity of really communicating trust. It is a delightful situation, that at least somebody really cares about you, somebody is not playing a game of hypocrisy, is not going to tell you a lie in order to please you, which is what has been happening throughout your whole life. This comes down to the ultimate truth, it is fundamental trust, which is extremely beautiful." (Chögyam Trungpa)
"True responsibility is to stay mindful and do the right thing ... at every moment."
"Fear sells not only newspapers and television shows and all kinds of things we don't really need but also, most sinister of all, wrong-minded, often greed- and control-driven solutions to complex problems." (Robin Karr-Morse and Meredith S. Wiley)
"How can you have a war on terrorism when war itself is terrorism?" (Howard Zinn)
"If the younger generation does not take pride in becoming like its elders, then the society has lost its own continuum, its own stability, and probably does not have a culture worth calling one, for it will be in a constant state of change from one unsatisfactory set of values to another." (Jean Liedloff)
"The true test of intelligence is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don't know what to do." (John Holt)
"[M]ost of the really good and creative students who emerge from traditional public schools do so in spite of the school and its curriculum, not because of it." (Allen Graubard)
"[T]here is no right education except growing up into a worthwhile world. Indeed, our excessive concern with problems of education at present simply means that the grown-ups do not have such a world." (Paul Goodman)
"The task of the educator is to provide experience. ... The work of the teacher is like that of the artist; it is a shaping of something that is given, and no serious artist will say in advance that he knows what will be given. ... Education must be lived. It cannot be administered." (George Dennison)
"There are some things money can't buy. For everything else, there's MasterCard." (MasterCard) or "There are some things money can buy. For everything else, there're our hearts."
"Men had better be without education than be educated by their rulers." (Thomas Hodgskin?)
"A happy person, fulfilled in their connection to their friends, family, and community and in the expression of their vocation, is likely to be useful and productive in their life and to help weave the collective fabric of a functional society. What else should a society need from education other than the happiness of its people? What else should we demand for our children other than their happiness?" (Steven Harrison)
"Why do we model health care, education, and even community and family development after business? Why can't we model virtually all organizations, including business ones, after (loving) family and (friendly) community?"
"INEQUALITY IS 'STRUCTURAL' VIOLENCE" (Richard Wilkinson & Kate Pickett)
"In the United States, the lack of accountability for elites goes hand-in-hand with a lack of mercy for everyone else." (Glenn Greenwald)
"An educated nation cannot be created by force." (Vilho Hirvi)
"Successful change and good educational performance often require improvements in social, employment, and economic sectors." (Pasi Sahlberg)
"In educating the whole child, tests fail." (Steven Harrison)
"Life is not what we normally think. It is just exactly what it is, only if we dare to and are able to see it."
"A mildly embarrased toleration of injustice is an elemental part of cultural sophistication" (quoted in Kozol's Amazing Grace)
"I am convinced, that if all men were to live as simply as I then did, thieving and robbery would be unknown. These take place only in communities where some have got more than is sufficient while others have not enough." (Henry David Thoreau)
"Even without freedom in the conventional sense, we still have freedom to respond to stimuli wisely."
"The important question, how can people learn to feel a stronger sense of kinship or common humanity with others who are different, is for me best answered by a story about John L. Sullivan, once the heavyweight prize fighting champion of the world. Late one afternoon he and a friend were riding standing up in a crowded New York City streetcar. At one stop, a burly young man got on who had had too much to drink. He swaggered down the center of the car, pushing people out of his way, and as he passed John L., gave him a heavy shove with his shoulder. John L. clutched a strap to keep from falling, but said nothing. As the young man went to the back of the car, John L.'s friend said to him, "Are you going to let him get away with that?." John L. shrugged and said, "Oh, I don't see why not." His friend became very indignant. "You're the heavyweight champion of the world," he said furiously. "You don't have to be so damned polite." To which John L. replied, "The heavyweight champion of the world can afford to be polite." " (John L. Sullivan via John Holt)
"The greatest enemy to the conditioned mind is the reality of the present moment." (Matthew Flickstein)
"Mindfulness practice is the practice of being 100 percent honest with ourselves." (Henepola Gunaratana)
"Instead of searching for the meaning of life, how about developing the ability to really experience our lives?"
"By protecting oneself, one protects others; by protecting others, one protects oneself." (Samyutta Nikaya, 47:19)
"鳴かずんば、それでもやっぱりホトトギス。" cf. "鳴かずんばそれもまたよしホトトギス" (松下幸之助) [Note: The both are similar; but the former is just about acceptance and doesn't involve judgment.]
"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable." (Helen Keller)
"A human being is part of a whole, called by us the 'Universe,' a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separated from the rest--a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circles of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty." (Albert Einstein)
"Reactions are monsters; but they are only products of our imagination, such as expectation and judgment."